James Dobson is quoted saying, “Don’t marry the person you think you can live with; marry only the individual you think you can’t live without.” Something amazing happens in relationships when you remind yourself of why you fell in love in the first place, and as a result focus on only doing things that will keep your relationship strong and healthy.
Notice I said healthy. You may think your relationship is fine just the way it is. Maybe you feel as thought the challenges that you face are normal in relationships. Well, there is a difference between normal, and healthy. Understanding what is healthy for a relationship is vitally important to make sure that both you and the one you love experience the love, support, and trust that every loving relationship should exhibit.
Here are 15 signs of a healthy marriage:
- Responsibility for Personal Needs. Partner’s recognize that they are ultimately responsible for meeting their own needs and they do their best to help each other meet those needs.
- Respectful Communication. Couples have open and honest communication. They communicate daily when possible.
- Relationship is a Priority. Couples continue nourishing their relationship. They consistently create time for the two of them.
- Realistic Expectations. Couples in healthy relationships see each other as whole people, with strengths and flaws. They love each other in spite of their weaknesses.
- Partners are willing and able to empathize with each other. They are willing to see things from their partner’s perspective and make what their partner wants and needs as important to them as what they want and need.
- Constructive Conflict. Conflict is a part of healthy relationships. In a healthy relationship conflict is dealt with in an open and respectful way, so that it strengthens the relationship rather than ripping it apart.
- Intimacy (sexual and non-sexual) Healthy relationships have a level of trust and connection that is satisfying and comforting. There are expressions of tenderness, caring, and concern. Sexual intimacy is always respectful, unique to each couple and takes into consideration the needs and desires of both partners.
- Financial Responsibility. Couples share the decision-making about finances and come to an agreement on how they will handle finances that feels good to both partners.
- Partners accept that change is unavoidable. They are proactive, flexible and solution oriented.
- Sense of Humor. Couples are able to laugh at themselves and to find the humor in situations. Healthy couples use their sense of humor and good will to enjoy life and to deal with the unsolvable differences in their relationship.
- Shared Responsibilities. There is a willingness to share responsibilities and work together as a team to accomplish daily tasks as well as working toward their goals.
- Alliance of Two Adults. Partner’s see each other as equals and behave as two mature adults, rather than behaving either childishly or domineeringly.
- Healthy marriages are the union of two whole people to make one great relationship. Each partner has a sense of his or her own identity.
- Loyalty and Faithfulness. Consistent effort to build the relationship helps to affair-prove the marriage. If an affair has happened the couple works together to rebuild trust.
- Couples choose to use their stubbornness to stick together through tough times. When something goes wrong they work together to solve the issues.